Self-unfolding and Slow Change with Steve Schlafman
Steve Schlafman, a professional coach and writer, joins to share his perspective on change. He tells stories from his own life including his journey with addiction, pivot from a successful career in VC, and experience coaching high achievers. We discuss habits to support recovery, change as a slow wave, and the power of self-unfolding. Steve shares about parts-work, the shadow, and wholeness through his experiences with internal family systems (IFS). Lastly, we explore ways to rethink ambition and how many of society’s biggest problems are a “being problem”.
If this conversation resonates, you may enjoy Steve’s free annual review template. You can access it here: annualreview.life.
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We Are multiple, Discovering The Many Parts of Yourself by Steve Schalfman
As I dipped into a deep meditative state and the visualization began, I was suddenly standing on a giant stage at the Columbia River Gorge. In front of me, on an enormous hill, stood a thousand versions of myself—old, young, wild, tame, civilized, and disheveled (continue reading)
Rethinking Ambition by Steve Schalfman:
Through this exploration, it occurred to me that I could redefine ambition as something that's multi-dimensional and deeply personal rather than just tied to work, success and outcomes. It could encompass all the goals I now have, as well as my future aspirations, like how I want to show up in the world. Most importantly, one that honors the positive attributes of ambition, and neutralizes the negative (continue reading).
Work, Ambition, and Identity by Sam Sager
I don’t think you can truly answer questions about work without exploring ambition and identity. Looking back over the last decade, I see how interconnected they are for me. Tracing my trajectory with work only makes sense within the context of my evolving ambition and changing identity. So I’ll share my journey with work but it’s less about what I did and more about why I did it (continue reading)